It’s a new year! And a new year means that it’s time to set new resolutions.
But we’ve all set resolutions with the best of intentions only to have them fall away by the wayside within a month. And for this reason, a lot of us have simply given up on them. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Resolutions aren’t about setting goals and then beating ourselves up when we can’t achieve them.
We’ve all of us set goals
“Lose 10 kgs in time for the annual beach vacation. Which is in, like, 2 months!”
Or thought about plans that we want to achieve
“Buy an island in Greece”
But how often have we thought about how we want to feel?
Yeah. Think about it. Now, quick: How do you want to feel?
Ok, but let’s go beyond just happy, shall we?
How about this:
Get a pen and paper
Put on your thinking cap
Turn on the timer for 5 minutes
Write all the good feelings you can think of.
Then, look over that list and choose four feelings that matter the most to you.
Yes, yes. I know you came up with a gazillion feelings, all of which are really, well, nice (because I did tell you to list out all the nice feelings you could think of, remember?). But if you actually tried to work towards living with those gazillion nice feelings every single day, you’d soon find yourself heading towards a nervous breakdown. And we really wouldn’t want that now, would we?
OK, should we get a little serious now?
Why did I ask you to write about your feelings? Because, though our goals may constantly change, the feelings we want to experience – to live with – are likely to remain pretty constant. And if you judge your success by how you feel, you’d get a very good sense of the areas that are bogging you down and making you feel meh! So, let’s call these feelings that we want to experience our “core feelings”. Once you’ve figured out the ones that rock your world, use those as a litmus test to guide your life and your choices.
For example, these are the core feelings I use to guide my ship down this journey of life.
Be it through art, doodling, stitching, writing, cooking, or decorating the house. The sense of creating something with my own hands, using my imagination, is what I’m after.
Taking time for myself – to read, reflect, mediate, just be. Doing things that fill me up instead of draining my time and energy.
To me, this means taking charge of my life. Being more decisive and pro-active instead of just procrastinating and putting everything off for another day.
Regaining my wonder for life…surrounding myself with people and words that motivate me, that make me reach up beyond myself, that make me dream again.
Any time that I’m feeling out of whack, it’s easy for me to figure out which feeling is missing in my life, rather than wondering if the thought of those awesome Manolo Blahnik shoes that I can never, ever, afford is what is making me feel out of funk. Pretty cool, huh?
And when I realize that it’s not my lack of super-freaking-crazy spending power that’s bogging me down, but rather a lack of excitement that’s got me in a funk, I can do something to remedy that. Like jumping into the car and heading to Mango to buy those cool, sexy boots that I can totally afford!
But you get the drift, don’t you?
So spend those 5 minutes – now – if you haven’t already and tell me – what are the feelings that you want to live with every day?
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And before I sign off, here’s wishing you a year of awesomeness!